In the widespread nostalgia for pre-pandemic gatherings and rituals, we saw just how much we depend on other people. When medical and other frontline workers risked their own health to support entire communities, the world watched the everyday impact of lives dedicated to service.
And even as they, like the rest of us, coped with an ongoing pandemic, researchers studying the science of well-being uncovered key insights into what makes life meaningful. The findings include the benefits of empathy, gratitude and cooperation, with ideas for increasing happiness in your own life — or even in your country.
1. Choose empathy for a kinder, more compassionate year
Participants in the Harvard University study wrote letters describing the importance of empathy. Researchers speculated that it might boost the participants’ motivation to be empathetic, and the strategy worked: A few months later, those same participants demonstrated more empathetic behavior.
Do it: Try the study on yourself. Write down the benefits of empathy in a journal entry, detailing why you think it’s a valuable trait. It’s a solid way to recharge your empathy after a difficult year.
2. Promote social justice to forge a happier society
It’s a strong correlation. Social justice was second only to social capital — that’s how researchers refer to our complex networks of relationships — when it came to predicting each country’s happiness.
Do it: Want a happier community? Advocate for poverty reduction, education, health equity, labor market access and intergenerational justice where you live. Those are the metrics used for the EU Social Justice Index that researchers linked to each country’s life satisfaction.
3. Pick up the phone and call
Researchers studying the science of well-being agree that human connection is key. But in a pandemic, what really works?
Worried that calling will be awkward? You’re not the only one to think so.
Many study participants overestimated the awkwardness of voice calls, while underestimating the benefits. That may be one reason some avoid calling altogether, a misunderstanding with real consequences for well-being.
Do it: Instead of tapping out a text or email, choose a video or voice call instead.
4. Reap the benefits of cooperation
For the study, hundreds of small children tested their will by trying not to eat a cookie. If they could wait it out for long enough, they’d get a second cookie as a reward.
Here’s the twist: In some versions of the test, the kids worked in teams. Together, they did better, earning more cookies for all.
Do it: This study targets kids, but adults can benefit from cooperation, too. If you have a 2021 goal or resolution, consider asking a friend to join you; as a team, you might find even greater success.
5. Variety might really be the spice of life
There is more than one way to live well. Typically, researchers focus on two important metrics for evaluating the good life. One is pleasure; the other is all about deeper meaning.
A life of psychological richness is full of diverse experiences and discovery, offering challenges that stimulate your mind. It might not always be easy — but it will be interesting.
Do it: Seek out experiences likely to shift your perspective. Try taking up a new hobby, for example, or exposing yourself to a foreign culture.
6. Kindness and gratitude create a ripple effect
Saying “thank you” can make the world a better place. How? It’s what researchers call the witnessing effect, where seeing a behavior can change the actions of onlookers.
Do it: If you need some motivation to be kind — or to say “thank you” more — remember that the benefits don’t stop with you. You have the power to change your community’s behavior, too.
7. Live like an extrovert for a happiness boost
Do it: Stage your own experiment. Even if you’re a lifelong introvert, spend one week channeling extroverted behavior by seeking out (pandemic-safe) social situations and increasing interaction with others.
8. Emphasize altruism to help mitigate the pandemic
That’s great news as the world continues to cope with the ongoing pandemic.
Do it: If someone in your life isn’t doing their part to reduce the spread of Covid-19, don’t attempt to shame them into changing their ways. Try to appeal to their altruism.
9. Create a more equal world by examining your beliefs
What’s the root of inequality? How you answer the question might influence your behavior.
Not only that, both beliefs and behavior can change. The same researchers went on to show that inviting study participants to reflect on the root causes of poverty made them more likely to donate money to a campaign supporting a higher minimum wage.
Do it: Take a pause next time you find yourself judging someone facing difficult circumstances. You might be making some incorrect assumptions about the underlying reasons for the situation they’re facing.
10. Surround yourself with diversity and watch stereotypes fade
It turns out that when we cross racial, cultural and ethnic lines more often, we notice how similar we are to those around us, instead of focusing on the small differences.
Do it: You could move to an ethnically diverse place — the study authors used South Africa and Hawaii as prime examples.
Short of that? Seek out situations where you’ll rub shoulders with people who are different from you, with a focus on reducing your own tendency to use stereotypes.
Jen Rose Smith is a writer based in Vermont. Find her work at jenrosesmith.com, or follow her on Twitter @jenrosesmithvt.